Agree, except for this: don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
At first it seemed like the message was men, take resposnsibility for your actions instead of hanging on to the idea that forcing sex on someone is okay. But at that point it started sounding to me like a hysterical "everyone always says rape is entirely the woman's fault and that makes men evil!1!!1!1!eleventyone!" rant. It's also ignoring the fact that men get raped too, by other men and sometimes even by women. EVERYONE needs to take responsibility for their own safety, and that doesn't mean that women should be paranoid about going out, but it also doesn't mean you should "don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape" because that's irresponsible. Just goes to show so many people still just don't know the difference between supporting X, and demonising everything the other side says or does, in the name of supporting X.
(Reminds me of a coulmn I read in the paper by a man who was involved in the gay rights movement in the 80s, but who disowned it after his fellow activists turned into hysterical-heterosexual-haters who wanted to do things like remove royal wedding photos from public stuff, because it promoted heterosexuality. And I agree with him that it's all too common that people go from saying something is not wrong, to saying it's better than the mainstream alternative and trying to discriminate against the people they were trying to stop being discriminated against by. Hateful and hurtful behaviour that just makes people hate the activists back)
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At first it seemed like the message was men, take resposnsibility for your actions instead of hanging on to the idea that forcing sex on someone is okay. But at that point it started sounding to me like a hysterical "everyone always says rape is entirely the woman's fault and that makes men evil!1!!1!1!eleventyone!" rant. It's also ignoring the fact that men get raped too, by other men and sometimes even by women. EVERYONE needs to take responsibility for their own safety, and that doesn't mean that women should be paranoid about going out, but it also doesn't mean you should "don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape" because that's irresponsible. Just goes to show so many people still just don't know the difference between supporting X, and demonising everything the other side says or does, in the name of supporting X.
(Reminds me of a coulmn I read in the paper by a man who was involved in the gay rights movement in the 80s, but who disowned it after his fellow activists turned into hysterical-heterosexual-haters who wanted to do things like remove royal wedding photos from public stuff, because it promoted heterosexuality. And I agree with him that it's all too common that people go from saying something is not wrong, to saying it's better than the mainstream alternative and trying to discriminate against the people they were trying to stop being discriminated against by. Hateful and hurtful behaviour that just makes people hate the activists back)