I see where you're coming from now, and I realise now what I said sounded a bit confused. I do get that that's the position the OP was trying to take, too, but it doesn't stop me taking issue with how simplistic and knee-jerk it came off as to me. Yes, we need to change the culture around what people think of rape, but would it hurt some people not to act like banshees all the time? lol