I also want to emphasize that whether a woman changes her name is a personal choice, and I don't think a woman should be condemned or congratulated on that choice.
I agree that it's a choice, and I don't think I was judging Hermione in my post, I think I was judging people who write Hermione. However, since you bring it up, I do happen to think that women who choose to change their names are perpetuating some fairly conservative social ideas about women, men, marriage, and the family, and I feel no compunction in saying that I think you should have a good reason to do that. Being in love with someone for whom it is a dealbreaker does, in my opinion, constitute a good reason, although keeping my name would be a dealbreaker for me. However, I don't think people get to hide behind choice as a justification for doing whatever they want and pretending that their actions don't affect others. The personal is political.
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I agree that it's a choice, and I don't think I was judging Hermione in my post, I think I was judging people who write Hermione. However, since you bring it up, I do happen to think that women who choose to change their names are perpetuating some fairly conservative social ideas about women, men, marriage, and the family, and I feel no compunction in saying that I think you should have a good reason to do that. Being in love with someone for whom it is a dealbreaker does, in my opinion, constitute a good reason, although keeping my name would be a dealbreaker for me. However, I don't think people get to hide behind choice as a justification for doing whatever they want and pretending that their actions don't affect others. The personal is political.