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Feb. 27th, 2005 10:01 pmI actually don't think I can stand living on floor of people who believe in the death penalty and tell me I'm outrageous for disagreeing, basically.
*frustrated* Okay, not quite. This is basically what happened; we were watching CSI and when it finished we were talking about sentence terms in NZ. Lydia brought up the example of "a murder case which got two years, and then some guy who did armed robbery got ten years the next year; isn't that disgusting?" Please noticed I refrained from saying anything. I was trying real damn hard. I didn't ask Lydia if she knew the particulars of this case, I didn't challenge her, I didn't say a fucking wimpy liberal thing, even when Nick started bitching about the government. But then Jason said something I had to disagree with. I had to. I just can't, god, I can't just ;et people walk all over me because they fucking disagree with me and I cannot let some things go without a challenge; god knows they wouldn't.
Jason: I mean, in America they make their criminals pick up rubbish and stuff.
(noises of general agreement)
Me: (fairly mildly, for something I believe this strongly in) I don't believe in that, I think it's a removal of human rights.
Them: (words to the effect of "Well, but they're criminals, they're being punished.")
Me: (pretty strongly. Bad move, fine, but they all disagreed with me, what, I was supposed to just leave the room, walk away, feel like shit for a week? No. Fuckign. Way.) Um, no! Prison can't be a punishment.
They: *EXPLODE ALL OVER THE ROOM*
Me: No, look, we are not qualified to judge people. Criminals are sick.
Lydia: No, they're only sick if they get a mental health certificate. My mother works with the mentally ill, I know about this stuff.
Me: *refrains, forcibly, from saying how little qualified I think this makes Lydia* You know, that's wonderful, and I have intense respect for your mother. But I believe that people who commit crime are sick. Do you think anyone who commits a murder is, is, do you think anyone sane can do this? I mean a first-degree violent murder or rape? Murder at arms' length, through pollution, fine, maybe, but up close and personal?
Lyd: No, people who commit murder think it's okay, it's right
Me: EXACTLY, they are NOT IN THEIR RIGHT MINDS, they think it's okay. PLAINLY IT'S NOT OKAY, to us.
Lyd: I have a mental illness, does that make it okay for me to kill someone?
Me: (I HATE THIS DEFENSE, I really do.) NOT IT DOES NOT. Do you think it's OKAY to kill someone, Lydia?
Lyd: No, but I have a mental illness. (repeat last two sentences ad nauseam)
Me: ONE PERSON IN THREE HAS A FUCKING MENTAL ILLNESS. ONE PERSON IN THREE IS NOT A FUCKING CRIMINAL.
Lyd: Yes I know that!
Me: *durr*
Lyd: But, look, if your mother was killed, are you saying you would not want to punsih the person who killed her?
(I despise that tactic, Despise it.)
Me: I DON'T KNOW. I hope, I really hope, that I would not want to punish them.
lyd: If my mother was killed I would go out and kill the person who killed her.
Me: Oh, yeah, 'cause that would be okay, right?
Lyd: Yeah, an eye for an eye. I believe in the death penalty.
(Room: *murmurs agreement* I find this fucking incredible to see, BTW)
Me: *HAS A FUCKING SEIZURE* SHIT, an eye for an eye, Lydia, that doesn't WORK, that's TERRIBLE. Someone kills your mother, you kill them. someone else kills you, someone kills someone, everyone keeps killking IT DOESN'T WORK YOU ARE NOT QUALIFIED TO JUDGE THAT'S WHAT THE LAW IS FOR, AND EVEN THE LAW IS NOT ABOUT JUDGING
Them: Yes it is! It's a way of judging and punishing people. Are you saying we shouldn't have laws?
Me: NO. We need laws, okay, they are the rules of government so that we can live together fairly and to try to stop things like murder and so forth, to deterr but not to punish.
Tom: Deterrence is punishment. Do you believe in prison?
Me: Yes, but not as punishment; as deterrent and as a way to keep other people safe, I'm not saying we let the serial kilelrs run free or anything...
Tom: But prison is punishment!
Me: No, it's not, it shouldn't be, that's why I don't believe in hard labour! Yes, in an ideal world we wouldn't have to put criminals in prison..
Tom: in an ideal world we wouldn't have crime
Me: (FUCKING HELL, mr Son of Two English Teachers) Okay, yes, that's true!
Tom: So don't make generaliations like that and try to back them up with a point. Generalisations are the mother of all fuckups- actually, that's assumptions, but hey.
Me: *frustrated* Wow, of course I can't argue with what you just said because it's true. (*thinkign: wow, he cleverly avoided saying fuck all, way to go Tom! *ANGER*) But I obviously just disagree with you all. I don't think we are qualified to judge and punish and obviously I don't beleive in the death penalty...
Lydia: Are you saying if you were raped you wouldn't want the person who raoed you be punished?
Me: I don't know, I've never been raped! I'm not, I mean, I hope I wouldn't but how can I know that? But we shouldn't be using emotion! That's, that's, that's why we have JURIES for fuck's sake...
Them: That's sick. That is so sick.
Me: (REALLY UPSET, here) Look, I have never been raped...
Lydia: Oh my god, can we not talk about rape, that's cutting a little close to home for some of us
Me: OH MY GOD YOU BROUGHT IT UP LYDIA! I DID NOT!
Muneya: Stop trying to force your opinion on us!
Me: *practically in tears* Look, I obviously just disagree with you here. I'm really sorry that you think that..
Lydia: Then you shouldn't have said this outrageous statement
me: Obviously you're right, I shouldn't have expressed a liberal opinion in a room ful of conservatives!
Tom: *CHUCKS A MENTAL* YOU JUST CROSSED A LINE. YOU DO NOT COME INTO MY ROOM AND JUDGE ME LIKE THAT, BLAH BLAH FUCKING BLAH, YOU TALK ABOUT JUDGING
Me: I'm sorry, Tom, I didn't mean to offend you and I certainly didn't meant to judge you, okay?
Lydia: I think you should apologise to the rest of us.
me: FINE *does so, name by fucking name, although frankly calling a bunch of people who just agreed to the death penalty conservatives does not seem very fucking extreme to me, thanks*
Katie: *tries to make peace*
(time passes)
Someone: hey, where's Nick?
Tom: he left. He got out of here!
Me: I'll go apologise to him. (NB: I meant apologise for upsetting him by being loud, NOT for saying any of the things which I said)
Katie: No, there's no need for that...
Lydia: Actually, i think she should apologise to all of us for being offensive!
me: *blown away* Excuse me, you called me sick, you guys all jumped on top of me when I fraily peacefully expressed an opinion.
Katie and Muneya: *FRANTICALLY SHUT EVERYONE UP*
(There is twenty minutes of uncomfortable conversation before I leave, because I think I'm going to start to cry and I refuse to do that there.)
You know what I wish I said to Lydia? I wish I'd said that I was not going to apologise for disagreeing with her, as she seemed to expect of me, nor for expressing an opinion. i did not mean to start an argument and frankly Lydia had an equal role in continuing it than I did- and I wasn't the one who started bringing personal insults like "That's sick" and "If you were raped" into it, because I recognise those as personal insults aside from the political and bad argument tactics, respectively. (I shouldn't have said that about conservatives, though.)
I am basically crying here. I can't stand this! It is not my fault nor my problem I disagree with them, I didn't bring it up, and I refuse to regret my opinions. I am being constantly held to blame for my disagreements- not because I express opinions any more frequently- in fact, I express them less, for the first time in my life. It's just that the group, as a whole, invariably disagrees with me so I look like the troublemaker. Forget all the things they've said that offend and upset me that I don't say anything about (and there are a lot); as soon as I offend them, look out!
I know this is not a good habit to be in; I have to live with these people for the rest of the year, I don't want them to hate me! But on the other hand I refuse to be constantly shut up and shut down because my opinions are in the minority. I also know the opinions in this post are very controversial and also they're incomplete; sometimes I do believe in punishment, like speeding tickets. Of course, the things I believe in punishment for are things they would think are okay- lydia's voting for some random ACT spokesperson because he wants to raise the speed limit, to give an example. Anyway, I know that because I am not the victim of violent crime, my mother isn't murdered, my daughter hasn't been raped, I know that sometimes saying this kind of thing is offensive and upsetting. And I really didn't mean to get far into it, and I'm deeply sorry if I hurt anyone (although I'm not, actually, all that sorry if I offend someone. Politically I am happy to offend people but not to hurt them; religiously and morally I dislike offending people because these, above all things, are so often personal that offense is often also hurt. Just so you know.)
*sigh* If you've read this far, thanks.
*frustrated* Okay, not quite. This is basically what happened; we were watching CSI and when it finished we were talking about sentence terms in NZ. Lydia brought up the example of "a murder case which got two years, and then some guy who did armed robbery got ten years the next year; isn't that disgusting?" Please noticed I refrained from saying anything. I was trying real damn hard. I didn't ask Lydia if she knew the particulars of this case, I didn't challenge her, I didn't say a fucking wimpy liberal thing, even when Nick started bitching about the government. But then Jason said something I had to disagree with. I had to. I just can't, god, I can't just ;et people walk all over me because they fucking disagree with me and I cannot let some things go without a challenge; god knows they wouldn't.
Jason: I mean, in America they make their criminals pick up rubbish and stuff.
(noises of general agreement)
Me: (fairly mildly, for something I believe this strongly in) I don't believe in that, I think it's a removal of human rights.
Them: (words to the effect of "Well, but they're criminals, they're being punished.")
Me: (pretty strongly. Bad move, fine, but they all disagreed with me, what, I was supposed to just leave the room, walk away, feel like shit for a week? No. Fuckign. Way.) Um, no! Prison can't be a punishment.
They: *EXPLODE ALL OVER THE ROOM*
Me: No, look, we are not qualified to judge people. Criminals are sick.
Lydia: No, they're only sick if they get a mental health certificate. My mother works with the mentally ill, I know about this stuff.
Me: *refrains, forcibly, from saying how little qualified I think this makes Lydia* You know, that's wonderful, and I have intense respect for your mother. But I believe that people who commit crime are sick. Do you think anyone who commits a murder is, is, do you think anyone sane can do this? I mean a first-degree violent murder or rape? Murder at arms' length, through pollution, fine, maybe, but up close and personal?
Lyd: No, people who commit murder think it's okay, it's right
Me: EXACTLY, they are NOT IN THEIR RIGHT MINDS, they think it's okay. PLAINLY IT'S NOT OKAY, to us.
Lyd: I have a mental illness, does that make it okay for me to kill someone?
Me: (I HATE THIS DEFENSE, I really do.) NOT IT DOES NOT. Do you think it's OKAY to kill someone, Lydia?
Lyd: No, but I have a mental illness. (repeat last two sentences ad nauseam)
Me: ONE PERSON IN THREE HAS A FUCKING MENTAL ILLNESS. ONE PERSON IN THREE IS NOT A FUCKING CRIMINAL.
Lyd: Yes I know that!
Me: *durr*
Lyd: But, look, if your mother was killed, are you saying you would not want to punsih the person who killed her?
(I despise that tactic, Despise it.)
Me: I DON'T KNOW. I hope, I really hope, that I would not want to punish them.
lyd: If my mother was killed I would go out and kill the person who killed her.
Me: Oh, yeah, 'cause that would be okay, right?
Lyd: Yeah, an eye for an eye. I believe in the death penalty.
(Room: *murmurs agreement* I find this fucking incredible to see, BTW)
Me: *HAS A FUCKING SEIZURE* SHIT, an eye for an eye, Lydia, that doesn't WORK, that's TERRIBLE. Someone kills your mother, you kill them. someone else kills you, someone kills someone, everyone keeps killking IT DOESN'T WORK YOU ARE NOT QUALIFIED TO JUDGE THAT'S WHAT THE LAW IS FOR, AND EVEN THE LAW IS NOT ABOUT JUDGING
Them: Yes it is! It's a way of judging and punishing people. Are you saying we shouldn't have laws?
Me: NO. We need laws, okay, they are the rules of government so that we can live together fairly and to try to stop things like murder and so forth, to deterr but not to punish.
Tom: Deterrence is punishment. Do you believe in prison?
Me: Yes, but not as punishment; as deterrent and as a way to keep other people safe, I'm not saying we let the serial kilelrs run free or anything...
Tom: But prison is punishment!
Me: No, it's not, it shouldn't be, that's why I don't believe in hard labour! Yes, in an ideal world we wouldn't have to put criminals in prison..
Tom: in an ideal world we wouldn't have crime
Me: (FUCKING HELL, mr Son of Two English Teachers) Okay, yes, that's true!
Tom: So don't make generaliations like that and try to back them up with a point. Generalisations are the mother of all fuckups- actually, that's assumptions, but hey.
Me: *frustrated* Wow, of course I can't argue with what you just said because it's true. (*thinkign: wow, he cleverly avoided saying fuck all, way to go Tom! *ANGER*) But I obviously just disagree with you all. I don't think we are qualified to judge and punish and obviously I don't beleive in the death penalty...
Lydia: Are you saying if you were raped you wouldn't want the person who raoed you be punished?
Me: I don't know, I've never been raped! I'm not, I mean, I hope I wouldn't but how can I know that? But we shouldn't be using emotion! That's, that's, that's why we have JURIES for fuck's sake...
Them: That's sick. That is so sick.
Me: (REALLY UPSET, here) Look, I have never been raped...
Lydia: Oh my god, can we not talk about rape, that's cutting a little close to home for some of us
Me: OH MY GOD YOU BROUGHT IT UP LYDIA! I DID NOT!
Muneya: Stop trying to force your opinion on us!
Me: *practically in tears* Look, I obviously just disagree with you here. I'm really sorry that you think that..
Lydia: Then you shouldn't have said this outrageous statement
me: Obviously you're right, I shouldn't have expressed a liberal opinion in a room ful of conservatives!
Tom: *CHUCKS A MENTAL* YOU JUST CROSSED A LINE. YOU DO NOT COME INTO MY ROOM AND JUDGE ME LIKE THAT, BLAH BLAH FUCKING BLAH, YOU TALK ABOUT JUDGING
Me: I'm sorry, Tom, I didn't mean to offend you and I certainly didn't meant to judge you, okay?
Lydia: I think you should apologise to the rest of us.
me: FINE *does so, name by fucking name, although frankly calling a bunch of people who just agreed to the death penalty conservatives does not seem very fucking extreme to me, thanks*
Katie: *tries to make peace*
(time passes)
Someone: hey, where's Nick?
Tom: he left. He got out of here!
Me: I'll go apologise to him. (NB: I meant apologise for upsetting him by being loud, NOT for saying any of the things which I said)
Katie: No, there's no need for that...
Lydia: Actually, i think she should apologise to all of us for being offensive!
me: *blown away* Excuse me, you called me sick, you guys all jumped on top of me when I fraily peacefully expressed an opinion.
Katie and Muneya: *FRANTICALLY SHUT EVERYONE UP*
(There is twenty minutes of uncomfortable conversation before I leave, because I think I'm going to start to cry and I refuse to do that there.)
You know what I wish I said to Lydia? I wish I'd said that I was not going to apologise for disagreeing with her, as she seemed to expect of me, nor for expressing an opinion. i did not mean to start an argument and frankly Lydia had an equal role in continuing it than I did- and I wasn't the one who started bringing personal insults like "That's sick" and "If you were raped" into it, because I recognise those as personal insults aside from the political and bad argument tactics, respectively. (I shouldn't have said that about conservatives, though.)
I am basically crying here. I can't stand this! It is not my fault nor my problem I disagree with them, I didn't bring it up, and I refuse to regret my opinions. I am being constantly held to blame for my disagreements- not because I express opinions any more frequently- in fact, I express them less, for the first time in my life. It's just that the group, as a whole, invariably disagrees with me so I look like the troublemaker. Forget all the things they've said that offend and upset me that I don't say anything about (and there are a lot); as soon as I offend them, look out!
I know this is not a good habit to be in; I have to live with these people for the rest of the year, I don't want them to hate me! But on the other hand I refuse to be constantly shut up and shut down because my opinions are in the minority. I also know the opinions in this post are very controversial and also they're incomplete; sometimes I do believe in punishment, like speeding tickets. Of course, the things I believe in punishment for are things they would think are okay- lydia's voting for some random ACT spokesperson because he wants to raise the speed limit, to give an example. Anyway, I know that because I am not the victim of violent crime, my mother isn't murdered, my daughter hasn't been raped, I know that sometimes saying this kind of thing is offensive and upsetting. And I really didn't mean to get far into it, and I'm deeply sorry if I hurt anyone (although I'm not, actually, all that sorry if I offend someone. Politically I am happy to offend people but not to hurt them; religiously and morally I dislike offending people because these, above all things, are so often personal that offense is often also hurt. Just so you know.)
*sigh* If you've read this far, thanks.
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Date: 2005-02-27 09:50 am (UTC)I'm, unfortunately, American and I agree whole-heartedly with what you said. And that's awesome that you kept voicing your beliefs despite everyone trying to drag you down. And you have no reason to be sorry.
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Date: 2005-02-27 10:02 am (UTC)However, do corporate criminals deserve punishment? Surely they must. Greed is the only mental illness such people could claim.
I've had arguments going along those lines before. Usually on some obscure grammar-related topic. Or on the pronunciation of 'schedule', heh. It seems like you got so frustrated not because they weren't agreeing but because they didn't argue well. And that's worse, 'cause all the best, most logical and hypocrisy-exposing arguments can so easily be deflated by a "but what if you..." retort.
Anyway. Big ups.
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Date: 2005-02-27 10:24 am (UTC)That's very true, actually. I don't mind a good argument- in fact I love one- but when people start attacking me personally, or using belowthe belt tactics, it's just.. so frustrating. Drives me up the wall.
Why, thanks. :)
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Date: 2005-02-27 10:36 am (UTC)* You might live with them. Doesn't mean you have to like them. Other people who you would actually want to be friends with will be attracted to you because you voice your opinion in the face of idiocy.
* You are entirely right in everything you've said. I know this because I am the center of the fucking universe and I am right about everything.
* You are infinitely cooler than all of those people, and therefore you have the right to voice whatever opinion you wish, whether you feel like backing it up or not. Tomorrow, tell them that all cars should be painted yellow. Or that black people should be incarcerated. Or that the borders should be turned into an iron curtain. Or that Winston Peters should lead a military coup against these liberal shitheads. Or that those conservative shitheads should be put to death. Or that all obnoxious sons of English teachers (never my favourite people in the world) should be given the death penalty for annoying you. That's my idea of insanity. Holier-than-though shitheads believing themselves superior. That's what the death penalty and hard labour should be introduced for. Hell. He's first against the wall when the revolution comes.
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Date: 2005-02-27 10:39 am (UTC)*Yessir, thank you sir!
*YOU ARE FABULOUS AND WONDERFUL except for the bit about Winston Peters. ;) <333333
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Date: 2005-02-27 10:40 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-27 10:41 am (UTC)Thank you.
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Date: 2005-02-27 06:26 pm (UTC)Whatever you do, don't stop expressing your opinion in their company. It's yours, you have a right to it, and if they think otherwise, nuts to them.
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Date: 2005-02-27 06:38 pm (UTC):) Thank you. You help so much <3
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Date: 2005-02-27 07:16 pm (UTC)And now weve got this uproar about criminals suing the goverment for being mistreated, and the governments now passing legislation to prevent them doing this.
The sad thing is most people dont realise that jails are supposed to be for rehabilitation not just for locking up people and throwing away the key (except in some cases like hollywood movies). How can you expect to rehabilitate someone if you dont even treat them with the rights they're entitled to.
PS. just an interesting lil fact I found, theres and exemption in the Emancipation Act and the Bill of Rights in the US which means that criminals are alowd to be used as slave labour.
PPS. Do you realy want to be friends with these people considering their views? and arrogance?
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Date: 2005-02-27 09:13 pm (UTC)Yes, I think I knew that about the emancipation act... kind of, well, TERRIBLE.
PPS: I do, yeah. I like them, they're generally smart and friendly. & I don't know arrogant is the best word to describe them.
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Date: 2005-02-27 07:35 pm (UTC)Look, as others have said: you don't _have_ to like them. I know you have been getting on really well with them (except Lydia) and it sucks that you had this sort of falling-out, but there's heaps of time left in the year. I'm sure you can patch it up. And, hey, you can always come over to my room whenever you want.
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Date: 2005-02-27 09:10 pm (UTC)But I do like them, quite a lot. I just totally, violently diagree with them one pretty much every topic known to man. I can deal with that, but I don't know if they can.
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Date: 2005-02-27 09:23 pm (UTC)Kind of randomly found your journal...(I think you commented on a post of mine)
You're absolutely right by the way...and group mentality can be kind of creepy especially when you're on the wrong side of it.
My suggestion would be quote statistics/history at them to prove the point, rates of recidivism vs prison terms/conditions for example, I'd make a guess that Scandanavian countries have a far lower rate of repeat offending than say...the States.
You seem like a good person (where as if it were me I probably couldn't resist using incredibly annoying tactics like taking their arguments to extremes or firing Arthur Alan Thomas at them)
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Date: 2005-02-27 09:29 pm (UTC)Umm, it's a good idea if I could find it... I suppose I could try Google, although perhaps it's bringing up a dead issue. :P Scandinavia's a good place to start.
Well, thanks. :) Arthur Alan Thomas??
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Date: 2005-02-27 09:59 pm (UTC)Maybe try not to hang out with these people so much?
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Date: 2005-02-28 09:21 am (UTC)Hey, email me. How was your first lecture? What was your first lecture? What's your room like? What are your roomies like (probably worse than mine. Please god worse than mine, you're at Selwyn!)
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Date: 2005-02-27 11:16 pm (UTC)Can't say I'm too impressed with anybody's behavior or logic as you depicted it, I confess. It reminds me of the political debates when I was in eighth grade -- we all made some really lousy arguments, and there are some points I still regret conceding.
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Date: 2005-02-28 09:25 am (UTC)My point is, anyway, fandom is not so... well, I was going to say not so vicious, but of course it can be. It's perhaps not so threatening, although I really do sympathise with your own position. :-/
I'm amazed I managed to depict anything even half-coherently, I must confess...! I don't know, I never know if I'm as reasonable as I think I am- I know that I speak strongly, but I hope I don't employ scare-tactics and bad arguments the way I feel they are employed against me.
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Date: 2005-02-27 11:50 pm (UTC)Sorry that you're feeling so rotten- I can sooo sympathise, I have gotten into some very violent arguments with mates about various different sensitive issues, and have ended up feeling crap afterwards.
I take my hat off to you for being passionate about what you believe in, and having the courage and faith to stand up and voice what you believe in...too many people just bite their tongues and stay silent about the things they passionately believe in, just for the sake of being liked and accepted by the masses.
For the record, I don't believe in the death penalty either. I would say that I do believe that life imprisonment should mean life, and that anyone who takes the life of another, should die in jail...but I also do believe in rehabilitation for violent criminals, I think it's something our country could most certainly work towards. A lot of people would say that people can most definitely be natural born killers, because it's in their "bad blood", but I believe that you are a product of your environment and upbringing, and anyone with a violent and abusive upbringing is very likely to repeat the cycle in later life.
Now, I'm NOT saying that someone should not be held accountable for their violent actions, just because they had a "bad childhood" or some other crap like that...but I don't believe capital punishment or letting them rot in a prison cell for the rest of their lives is the best way of going about it. And, I don't believe that killing the murderer of someone you loved, or throwing them in jail, is going to ease your pain in any way. Even if justice IS done, you are still the one with the life sentence, and you will be left with your grief and sense of loss long after the murderer is punished. Having them hanged, or put in the electric chair, or beheaded is not going to bring your loved-one back.
Which brings me to my next point: I hate it too when people always bring up "what ifs" in arguments, like what Lydia did, because we just can't know until we've been there! That's like saying, "If you were raped, would you have an abortion?", or "If your husband hit you once, would you leave him?" We haven't been in any of those situations before, therefore we cannot say how we would deal with it, or what we would do. I mean, I honestly don't know what I'd do if my mothers was murder, or I was raped- I haven't been there, therefore I'm not qualified to judge. I mean, we know how we'd cope in an IDEAL WORLD, but we can't know unless we've been there.
So yeah, that's my two cents worth. I know that when you discuss controversial subjects such as this, there is bound to be a bit of screaming and yelling, and clashing of opinions. But, when discussions like this happen again, my advice to you would be to embrace it, and go with it, and be happy that you are meeting people at Uni that are prepared to discuss the deeper issues in life, and not just blab on about what so-and-so is wearing, and who's been hooking-up with who while they were drunk on Thursday night. That's what Uni is all about: meeting people that love to discuss the same things as you, and who you can have deep chats with, and go away feeling fulfilled. Trust me, if they are real friends, they will appreciate the fact that you actually HAVE an opinion, and will respect you for not being afraid to speak out.
How's Uni Hall going generally?
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Date: 2005-02-28 06:04 am (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2005-02-28 12:49 am (UTC)For me, the death penalty is a sick thing, because it`s a sick as a murderer killing a child. It`s just not the correct kind of punishment. I suppose what i`m trying to say is the kind of punishment we should give them for doing such an aweful thing is something that contradicts the thing they did, not forcing them to work, not forcing them to die.
In fact, I agree with you more than I do them, because they are just enforcing violence, not peace. They`re saying it`s alright to kill, when it`s not and that`s why the criminals are in prison in the first place.
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Date: 2005-02-28 09:30 am (UTC)I mean, I don't do that most of the time either, IRL. But I wish I did, and I do make an effort to!
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Date: 2005-02-28 03:50 am (UTC)*HUGGLES AND GLOMPS*
I hope the ranting helped, hun. Lydia sounds like a right bitch.
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Date: 2005-02-28 09:31 am (UTC)It did, a lot. But so are you guys. :)
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Date: 2005-02-28 06:00 am (UTC)To be completely honest, all this Crime and Punishment stuff makes my brain ache: On the one hand, I think rehabilitation is the way to go...on the otherhand, are there some crimes that are so terrible that there is no sceond chance?
It's bought up some intresting points...hmmm.
I wonder what Lydia would say if I came down there and said,
"You upset Tui-you must be punished?" *Cough* "I will now send you to a place for rehabilitating conservitives....wait a mintue!You don't beleive in rehabilitation! I'll just have to lock you inside a box and leave you in the mountains."
Sometimes there's no constructive way to deal with the Lydias and Toms of this world. Though I'm all for giving you a sainthood.
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Date: 2005-02-28 09:35 am (UTC)*giggling* Yeah, exactly.
<333 thank you!!
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Date: 2005-02-28 07:18 am (UTC)*hug*
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Date: 2005-02-28 09:35 am (UTC)*huggles*
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Date: 2005-02-28 09:56 am (UTC)[Continued in email.]
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Date: 2005-02-28 05:41 pm (UTC)*hugs*
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Date: 2005-02-28 09:21 pm (UTC)Well, it's not all bad. I hope.
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Date: 2005-02-28 07:27 pm (UTC)Yep - Crime and Punishment have some serious problems, and while we can't seriously consider letting all offendors go, there still exist moral issues with punishing them too...
These people you talked to - whoever they were - did not realize that there are viable options to the existing system, and also have decidedly one sided view of the issues. For example, they ask 'what if you were killed' but not 'what if you were a killer.' They need to consider the possibility that there are two victims of a murder - the dead one and the one holding the gun.
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Date: 2005-02-28 09:26 pm (UTC)I think, generally, the modern prison system theory would work fairly well; it falls down in the practicalities, somewhat akin to the problems with practicing communism.
I guess from their point of view, a criminal's needs, rights, feelings etc are irrelevant to the course of "justice" as it were- as if, once a criminal, we are no longer human. :-/ That's why prison as a ounishment fails.
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