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[labellementeuse]

What's the proper response on TradeMe when you leave someone *very polite* neutral feedback for items that were frankly not as you expected, including the phrase "seller was handicapped by not knowing X", and the seller responds by flipping out and saying "DO YOU NO WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE HANDICAPPED? I DON'T TAKE THAT LIGHTLY. DON'T TRADE WITH ME AGAIN."? (I ended up apologising - but I'm not sure how I could have phrased that in a way that doesn't offer an insult - that was the most neutral phrasing I could come up with. The closest synonym to handicapped in this context is "struggled with" and frankly that seems nasty to me.) Am I completely wrong? Are people who talk about golf handicaps being insensitive? Can the word handicapped no longer be used without presenting an insult? (I mean - I am usually totally onboard with changing meanings of words and, for example, find the "that's so gay" construction offensive as well as puerile. But I had felt that handicapped in the context I used it in retains its original meaning.)

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[labellementeuse.livejournal.com]

Not sure yet! But probs not. Right at the end of exams in November, though... maybe you'll still be around. *crosses fingers*

[chattycheese.livejournal.com]

I should be, for a bit at least- I'm heading back to the upper hemispheres on the tenth. I can be a total creeper, though, and know when your exams and breaks are since my roommate's boyfriend is down in ChCh doing engineering. And she knows exactly when she'll be seeing him again. So, yeah.